This is where I leave you (2014): “..family can make you go crazy, but you also love them immensely!..”

This is where I leave you

Photo credits: © 2020 Feargal Agard | HoFA

This is where I leave you (2014) is about a father who passes away and his now-adult children are forced to return to their childhood home and live under the same roof together for a week with family and friends. It’s basically a comedy version of how a family can be put together. I giggled so much but it is also a real tear-jerker because it’s all so very recognizable. I saw this film in the period that my father was dying. It felt very fitting and at that time I was also in my parental home with the whole family after his death. You notice that, just like in the film, everyone has developed a different life when they move out and start a life of their own. The death of my father triggered different emotions that not everyone understood from each other. What also emerges and is very recognizable in this film is the humor that is exchanged. In one of the scenes, they discuss if their family is the only crazy one. I believe any family has questioned that about their own. But there is also a funny moment when they are participating with the Shabbat as they are a Jewish family and then one of them is called and answer the phone by saying “Hey, oh no, we’re just sitting in awkward silence.” I myself am half Moluccan and the Moluccan funerals are always huge. It’s that moment when the entire family comes from all over the Netherlands to show respect for the deceased family member. I recently talked about it to my cousin that it is actually nice to go to such funerals because then you see the whole family again and you’re just able to laugh with them again. They also exchanged many nice stories about my father and my family from the past. Besides that, we also have these little private chats amongst each other during the service. Which is one of the reasons why I was able to connect with this film because you see the main characters doing the same things. In the end, you realize that family can make you go crazy, but you also love them immensely!”

Photo and story by © 2020 Feargal Agard | HoFA

The film has been directed by Shawn Levy.

Starring: Jason Bateman, Tina Fey, Adam Driver, and Jane Fonda.